Laila Delight enjoys their life as a travelling sex worker, yoga teacher, and health coach. They are learning the ukelele and how to practice and share universal acceptance. 💎

What does being an intersectional feminist mean to you?

To me, being an intersectional feminist means liberating everyone from white colonial patriarchal capitalism.

It means working to change the dominant paradigm to include the voices and concerns of marginalized people.

It means protecting the earth and the indigenous people who depend on following the cycles of their environment.

To me, there is no difference between a feminist and a permaculturalist; everything is intersectional. Respecting the needs of people in various socioeconomic grounds also means utilizing resources available with sustainable methods. To be intersectional means to fully respect and offer allyship to marginalized groups and vocalize that the struggles of varying/overlapping groups are all different and deserve to be pursued to the great extent of the culpability.

What’s the best part about being a Libra moon?

My eye for detail, love for color, and passion for justice.

What’s something we often get wrong about sex work?

That it’s safer criminalized than decriminalized. Our lives would be so much less stigmatized if there weren’t legal implications for practicing such a vital and virtuous career. The criminalization of sex work conflates sex work with sex trafficking.

Both are illegal and one definitely should be, but keeping sex work illegal masks the issue of trafficking, mainly consent.

Trafficking is not sex work’s fault.

Demand for sex work does not mean there is demand for trafficking. Trafficking happens in multiple fields of work, just as exploitation happens in multiple fields of work. Sex work has proven its longevity, as long as we insist on placing monetary value on things we desire and need, people will pay money for sex.

So we need to make a clear distinction between people who are kidnapped and forced into sex slavery and the cam model giving a blow job to her boyfriend in her bedroom. Right now, a grey area covers everything in between those two scenarios.

Consensual sex work provides a safe space for creative expression, as well as filling a demand! It’s dehumanizing and degrading to insist all sex workers are forced into employment and would be better off doing something else. Full service sex work can be just as much of a therapeutic experience as an erotic one and everyone should be allowed seek services to make themselves feel good -(As long as they aren’t harming others.

The criminalization of sex work puts all sex workers at risk.

Criminalization of sex work also disproportionately targets those workers who are already marginalized. The white cam girls need to stand up and speak in defense of the black trans woman doing full service on the street. The stigma is for all of us, but only some get beaten. Only some die.

But we all deserve to be safe in our jobs.

What is something we often get wrong when talking about sex and sexuality?

I think the next idea that needs to die away is the binary notion of sex, sexuality, and gender. We are much more beautiful and complex that a dual option checkbox.

Your sexuality doesn’t have any bearing on your gender. I identify as a genderfluid, non-binary, trans masculine person. That’s my gender identity and my gender expression changes as it will. My sexuality is open, and I am attracted to people of all genders.

I identified as bisexual until I learned of the term pansexual, meaning to include all/non genders. I am also a slut, which to me, means I am comfortable with my sexual desires and delight in pursuing them.

What’s something you’re currently working on that’s both super challenging and exciting?

Surfing challenges my body and mind. I think it’s pretty exciting. I am also committed to healing my bodily ailments through an Ayurvedic lifestyle, yoga, and meditation. All of those practices both challenge and excite me, my own life is my favorite project.

What’s something you’re working to unlearn?

Raised as an evangelical fundamentalist Christian meant I developed a deep self-loathing as a child.  Sex work has been a wonderful tool in healing those wounds. It is a powerful platform for building self-love. I get to set the standard for how I’m viewed and it just keeps getting higher and higher.

As far as cultural reeducation goes, I am continually learning and appreciating the diversity of cultures on this planet. Indigenous culture is smoothed over by white colonial supremacy. As a fervent fundamentalist, I was hellbent on providing the gospel to people groups who had never heard the word of God.

I was not taught that it was the missionaries that brought so much destruction to the lands they sought to save. I didn’t understand when I was younger what was truly lost in the colonization of the America (or the rest of the world.) I didn’t understand white supremacy. In fact, I thought it was truly right to continue that pattern – all for Jesus, after all.

My ancestors – my very white puritan forebearers – came over on the Mayflower. You know, the boat with the prudes in the boxy hats. They were religious explorers out to practice their shame ridden ideology.

There were thousands of separate indigenous groups already living throughout the continent. Now, people maybe know a handful of tribes. All of rest are dead from genocide. The disease were brought from the European continent and were purposefully spread, which decimated the population.

An estimated 50-100 million natives lived here before white people set up shop along the Atlantic Coast.  And now there are 5 million. While the rest of the world population is growing, native women are being forcibly sterilized.

This is not an ancient issue from times we have left behind; this is practiced in our generation.  It happened over hundreds of years and it still continuing today. There are thousands of murdered and missing indigenous women, currently known in the United States.

When I used to think of genocide, I used to just consider the Holocaust. But millions more indigenous lives have been lost due to white colonial supremacy, probably billions. I am continually learning more accurate history and it only makes me more compassionate.

I am unlearning generations of trauma, entitlement and privilege. I believe the white settlers (everywhere) survived because of the open cooperation of the native inhabitant of the lands they stole. I would not be here today if my ancestors did not receive life saving supplies and information about their new home.  Even if my ancestors weren’t looking for gold and slaves, they came with the ultimate sense of Christian entitlement and saw the natives as people to be converted, not respected.

And 400 years later, I still have to listen to Christian music on the radio, but I’ve never heard a word of native tongue, spoken by an indigenous on those airwaves. That’s genocide.

Who do you go to when you’re needing support and guidance?

I really only reach out when I’m in desperation. I talk to other people about their problems a lot (phone sex operator = sex therapist) and should really reach out more to friends just to chat about what’s going on in my life.

I have a few friends that I know are there for me, but I only really go there when everything is totally falling apart. I’m continually learning to trust my higher self and inner voice of intuition. I’m also hoping to get settled and start cognitive behavioral therapy up again. It’s been too long.  

When was the last time you practiced self-care and why is self-care important to you?

I just stopped working on the computer for 20 minutes and did some yoga and smoked some weed. I love to find whatever pose feels best and just chill out there.

Self-care is essential for me to maintain the healthy inner balance I require both for contentment and providing joy and insight to others.

What’s something that’s been bringing you joy lately?

Meeting other sex workers really makes me happy. Such a diverse and beautiful group of people. I also really like my ukulele. Practicing gratitude for what I already have also brings me a lot of happiness, highly recommended.


I think the next idea that needs to die away is the binary notion of sex, sexuality, and gender. We are much more beautiful and complex that a dual option checkbox.

Laila Delight

What’s something that’s been pissing you off lately?

The past and present genocide of the indigenous people in the occupied lands of North America people makes me sick to my stomach. I think about it a lot, and recently,several news stories passed through my scrolling. I was shown information that was extremely disturbing.

Forced sterilization has been a part of US policy for a long time, but I haven’t heard of it until recently. I’m pissed off at how obliviously I was raised and how careless people consume culture without considering its implications. I’m pissed at how distracted everyone is, including myself. And we’ve been missing the picture because we haven’t had enough marginalized voices telling their piece of the story.

When was a time that self-doubt was at its worst for you while on your career and life journey?

Well…about a year ago I was mostly homeless, stressed out and picked up drinking again, briefly. I’d been sober for several years but it just seemed like this time, I would be able to handle it. As any addict knows, things quickly escalated and I ended up having too much tequila and falling down a slip-n-slide.

My immune system was already shot and my body responded by triggering a shingles outbreak. It made it impossible to work, was extremely painful, and emotionally scarring. I felt disgusting. But luckily, I had a ridiculous amount of love in my recovery period.  

I healed up, with a hardened resolve to leave alcohol behind for good and planned my first trip to do trade scenes in Las Vegas. I still have the scars on my back, but now they are a reminder to honor my body and I’m grateful.

What is one piece of advice you’d give to someone struggling with self-doubt and feeling like giving up on their dreams?

You are utterly unique in your capacity to achieve your destiny. No one else will be able to do what you are able to do.  So don’t give up, no one can replace you. The world needs your dreams as much as you do.

We don’t have time to wait, embrace what you love or we will all perish. We must inspire each other to be our authentic selves, or we will drift into vague monotony (ruled by white imperialist patriarchy).

Your dream is important. And every ounce of struggle will add to the richness of the final tale, your fairy tale.

Imagine that all your life’s work disappeared and you only had 1 minute to tell the world what you truly believe to be true. What would you say?

We only have the present moment in which to act and be aware. The more finely we can tune into the present, the more we experience from life. But it becomes too much to bear, this present moment, do not worry, because the next now brings the same opportunity.

In Sanskrit, Sat Nam mean “I am the Truth, the truth is in me. I experience myself in alignment with my truth.”

We will never know our truth by pushing suppressing what we truly desire. Allow yourself to be present and uncover what this moment has for you.

Namaste.

Learn more about Laila Delight and connect on Twitter. 🎉

Published by Sinclair P Ceasar III

Sinclair Ceasar is a speaker, podcaster, and higher ed professional committed to helping people live a better story, and be more hopeful. He sends weekly inspirational emails to over 1K readers each Monday. Email him at hello@thesapronextdoor.com or connect with him via Twitter @Sinclair_Ceasar

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