“Real Gs move in silence like lasagna.” – Lil Wayne
I’ve made the mistake of telling others about my dreams more than once. I don’t know, I guess I’ve always had this insatiable need for validation.
I’ve wanted people to respond by saying, “Yeah, totally do that thing you really care about. I’m here for it.”
And then when that doesn’t happen, I curl up like a cinnamon roll and my dream – my precious dream – becomes this impossible, irrational thing.
But let me slow down for a sec to just say that not all dreams are possible or rational or even attainable as is. Sometimes they need to be edited, altered, scaled down.
Still, there’s nothing assuring or loving about someone telling you that what you want for your future is dumb.
There are a variety of ways respond to someone telling you their life’s passion, and yet, so many of us have experienced the laughs or scoffs or sighs of disappointment that come from people who never deserved to bear witness to our vision in the first place.
Lemme say that again for the people in the back: everything ain’t for everyone.
Some people don’t deserve to be in the writer’s room of your life.
This goes for family, the girls in the group chat, the workout buddies, the pastor, and sometimes even your therapist. We need to be careful about seeking feedback and guidance from people who haven’t been where we want to go.
It’s a natural tendency to unintentionally deter someone from their dreams because we: a) are unknowingly jealous/envious or b) think we’re doing the right thing by saying, “Pick another dream. That one doesn’t suit you.”
Now, there’s nothing wrong with advising someone to be realistic or to slow down and rework their plan. But this needs to be done with great grace and care. Our words hold power and our dreams can be fragile from being bruised over the years.
Be mindful of who your share your first and second drafts with because you will absolutely be judged and graded on them.
Be selective with the people you add to your personal board of directors. Our mentors should have lived the experiences we seek to have.
Resist the urge of just linking up with the first person who will give you the time of day and listen to your story, because you actualizing your dream might mean lives being saved or changed.
Your dreams coming true might mean chains and burdens being broken for someone else. Your vision might bring more beauty to this world and Lord knows we need that.
This is a call to move in silence, because sometimes that’s required to position you for a blessing. A call to be extra intentional with how you move.
It’s a nudge to go back into that cobwebbed closet and dust off that dream you retired because someone dismissed it and invalidated it.
In fact, here’s all the permission and validation you’ll ever need. You’ve been put on this earth for many many reasons and in your heart was planted a great dream – maybe several dreams. It may very well be something you have a natural affinity for, or it might be something far off that you’ll spend a lifetime working for, or some combination of it all.
Never mind all that.
Just get started now because this dream is yours and you are absolutely the right person for the job.
Use your resourcefulness and just get to the next step on the journey of making this thing come true. Keep at it.
Get smart people around you, and make sure your basic needs are taken care of so you’re not suffering while trying to make awesome happen. And remember that relationships matter. Don’t neglect the people that care about you. Take them with you and encourage them to go after their dreams too.
And no matter what happens, stick with it. If you have to put it on the shelf at times that’s okay. Life happens. We’re keeping it real here, but always come back to what you care about. The way you come back to anything you really love.
Your dreams matter. Protect them. Chase them. Be mindful of how you talk about them. And never ever stop dreaming.
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