Kid Cudi recently posted on Instagram about living with depression.
He shared: “Sadness eats away at me sometimes. How do I deal? A lot of u hit me and ask how I get through. Truthfully, idk. Some days are great, others not so great. I just try to believe God has something better for me. I try to have faith in the light. Please believe.”
A news website did a quick write-up of Kid Cudi’s history with mental illness and rehab. Then, someone decided to share unhelpful words in the comment section of the article, basically expressing their annoyance with Kid Cudi sharing his troubles. The commenter said Kid Cudi needs to just talk with a therapist and heal already. Why continue to just be sad all these years?
I know. I know.
There’s much to unpack here. But, let me say this: For every one person using their platform (of any size) to push back on stigma, there’s someone on Al Gore’s internet saying: “shut up and get over your depression”.
This is why I share what I do. Furthermore, it’s why I’m calling you in to share what you can with your circle of influence.
There’s no need to overshare. Just be honest.
It doesn’t have to be:
- “This is why I’m in therapy” or
- “Here’s a list of people/things who’ve traumatized me” or
- “Listen up, I’m about to share something I’ve never told anyone”
It could be sharing about your current mood, about the impacts 2020 still has on your family, or about how you know someone who had more lows than highs at one point.
This conversation can take place in the quiet of a coffee shop, during the final leg of a road trip, in a text to a friend in need, or in a conversation with a mentee. It doesn’t have to be public-facing. It can be with someone you’ve built trust with. Someone who will listen.
Every bit actually counts.
See, what fuels mental illness stigma is silence. It’s also the idea that there’s this status of people who have it all together. It’s a system that’s told us time and time again that our best isn’t good enough, to always be working, to never stop feeling shame about what you’ve done wrong.
At worst, we pass that mentality on and move through this world with our heads down believing the only option is to suck it up.
And you know what, there are times when survival is survival. But I’m not talking about those times. I’m talking about a world that so desperately needs more honest people. More representation. More people saying, “I see your brokenness and raise you a few chips of my own experience.”