You are a multipotentialite, a Photographer, Videographer, Director, Shameless Smut Peddler of Shameless Smut & Unabashed Sexplorer. Have you always been unabashed about your sexploration? How have you been able to be so transparent?
I have not! I spent too many years in a vicious cycle of shame, self doubt and guilt. As I slowly allowed myself to explore and accept my sexuality, both as a queer and as a gender nonconforming person, my view of myself as both a human with value and an empowered sexual individual improved exponentially.
Nowadays I try to live my life with as little shame as possible, and I work so hard to be as ethical and transparent as I can while I’m at it.
What do we get wrong when talking about consent?
We assume that consent is a cut and dry, black and white concept. Consent, or the lack thereof, is often a messy gray area that requires more negotiation than just a simple “yes” or “no”.
Sometimes people give consent for things that they aren’t actually fully comfortable consenting to – whether it be because of financial, social, political or any other menagerie of self-induced (or not) pressure. I’ve had a lot of discussions recently about the concept of “Fight, Fight, Flee, or Fawn” – it’s a lot to cover here but definitely worth looking into if you’re up for falling into a rabbit hole of complicated consent politics!
What do we get wrong when talking about sexuality?
That sexuality, like consent, is a cut and dry concept. As someone who is very sexually fluid I definitely am hyper-aware of this concept. Sexuality is a spectrum, and people can fall and fluctuate anywhere on it at any given day.
What do you love about photography?
I love being able to create a tangible example of how I see the world in a way that I can share with others. I love being able to show people how I see things because I’m terrible at explaining it.
What’s something you’re currently working on that’s both super challenging and exciting?
Over the last year I’ve begun directing scenes for a popular gay site, and while I love taking on additional responsibility the pressure to deliver a product that is consistently up to my quality standards is super tough!
I’ve been getting an amazing response from my viewer base though and I love being able to have so much creative control in a setting where I can make content that both me and my models feel good about!
What’s something you wish you could say to your 16 year old self?
When I was sixteen I was struggling with my sexuality and gender identity, as well as self harm and depression issues. If I could tell myself anything, it would be to please keep going because I promise it will get better.
Who do you go to when you’re needing support and guidance?
I am so fortunate to have a close-knit, reliable support system. It took me a long time to assemble, but has been an absolute life saver – especially in the last year. My parents have also been indispensable in my personal growth and success in the last several years, and I owe so much of my success to them.
When was the last time you practiced self-care and why is self-care important to you?
Before I left for the trip I’m on now, I made sure I took a good day for myself! I’m definitely a creature of habit, so I did what I usually do – a bath in the morning, a trip with my dog to get a healthy snack which we then take to the park and enjoy in the sun, followed by a trip to the pet store to pick up fresh treats, and then we head back to the house to curl up on the couch and binge watch horror movies!
What’s something that’s been bringing you joy lately?
Knowing that the boys I get to work with feel safe, comfortable, empowered and happy with the work we are doing!
What’s something that’s been pissing you off lately?
Constantly feeling like I’m at the whim of a society run by cisgender white men.
What are your unshakable values and when did you become clear on them?
I am committed to being as ethical as I possibly can. I’ve been aware of my ethics for as long as I can remember, and am constantly working hard to be mindful and aware of both my privilege and my ability to use that privilege to enact positive change for everyone.
It’s years in the future. You’re on stage to accept an award for your life’s work. What’s your five word acceptance speech?
Shit happens. Never give up.
Who are a few amazing people that we should follow and why?
I am constantly in awe of all the amazing babes doing cool ass shit all over the internet.
Here’s a couple of my faves, and their Instagram handles:
Jay Austin – @jasegrimm
Colton James – @coltonjamesart
Noelia Towers – @noeliatowers
Mia Little – @alittleedutainment
Jetti Lewis – @jettilalewis
Tuesday Bassen – @tuesdaybassen
What’s in the space between where you are and were you want to be? So much. But hopefully I’ll be able to overcome all of it if I can stay dedicated, motivated and true to myself.
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Isabel Dresler is an award winning genderfluid queer director and cameraperson/tortured artist based in Las Vegas. They spend most of their time traversing the west coast creating elevated smut for various gay porn sites and individual performers, and constantly strives to create the most ethical, authentic, unique content they can. When not spelunking into people’s orifices with a camera, Isabel can be found binge watching horror movies with their dog, wallflowering at gay leather bars or getting lost in the wilderness. Instagram. Twitter. Website.