How Not to Give Up When You’re Discouraged

They call them the microwave generation. 

Always expectant of instant gratification, feeling anxious whenever they don’t get a text response within ten minutes. Are they mad at me? What could they possibly be doing right now? OH MY GOSH…something went wrong!

Or how about the ones who get dismayed when they don’t go viral. When their business hasn’t taken off or when they’ve applied to a couple of jobs and haven’t landed anything. Am I incompetent? Should I just stay small and stop playing myself? 

Consider the ones who gave up for a season when someone said a discouraging word. That’s what happened with, rapper, T-Pain. R&B singer Usher was a major part of the reason T-Pain spiraled into a 4-year depression. Usher told T-Pain he wasn’t worth it, that his music was trash, and that he was making it harder for others to come up. 

Photo by Kait Herzog on Unsplash

A few takeaways from these vignettes: 

  • There’s no microwave generation. You can see people from Abraham until now who wanted something so badly they could hardly wait. They rushed the process, did it their own way, and tried overstepping God to get what was promised. You and I have done this as well. 
  • A lot of us call it quits when a venture hasn’t taken off yet. For some of us, that’s ending a relationship before it begins because the other person doesn’t seem committed. Some of us throw in the towel when our new product or service isn’t bringing in the big bucks overnight. But growth, like anything, takes time.
  • A two-minute conversation with someone we trust can make us put everything we’ve worked hard for on hold. They might give well-meaning advice. But that same advice and can send us in a spiral of shame, guilt, confusion, and hurt. This can sound like: “You’re too old to do this.” or “Is this project really the best use of your time?” or “What you’re doing doesn’t speak to me. I doubt it’s helping anyone else.” 

At the end of the day, we really need to back up and ask ourselves, “Where am I getting these messages from?” We get to investigate, unpack, and do our due diligence. 

It’s about confronting the truth.

  • Am I coming from a place of consolation or desolation?
  • Am I acting out of fear or motivation?
  • Am I overcompensating or giving it my best?
  • Am I rushing my blessing?

These are difficult questions to answer, especially when we’re fixated on wanting instant clarity, or when we’ve quit before the lesson began. The best next steps are unclear when we listen to others without first quieting ourselves, entering into a place of discernment, and seeking God’s will for our lives. 

Photo by Kait Herzog on Unsplash

It might be time for you to pause what you’re doing in order to get clearer on what God wants for you. Stay prayerful. Ask for guidance. Seek out the people who’ve been where you want to go. 

I remember getting upset when my wife prayed for God to close doors to things that weren’t good for us. For opportunities that sent us down the wrong path. All I heard was: please close all the doors. But, I was wrong. Pride was in the way. Fear was there too. Fortunately, I wisened up. I got clear on what she was praying. And I joined in too.

If we really want to get where God has ordained and destined us to be, then we have to be bold enough to say: “It’s not my will. It’s yours” 

About Sinclair P Ceasar III

Sinclair Ceasar is a Christian mental health speaker and writer.
%d bloggers like this: